orange peel theory

Originating from a November 2023 TikTok trend in which women would ask their partners to peel an orange for them and see how they would react.[1]

the orange peel theory

1. (Internet slang, TikTok slang) The idea that a relationship is strengthened by seemingly minor acts of service for one's partner, such as peeling an orange for them.
   • 2023 November 30, Gina Cherelus, “Is It True Love if They Won’t Peel Your Orange?”, in The New York Times‎, New York, N.Y.: The New York Times Company, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2024-02-16:

     This is the "orange peel theory," which holds that the little acts of thoughtfulness partners do for us, especially those that pose an inconvenience, serve as irrefutable confirmation that they care. […] Although relationship content on TikTok has a tendency to be oversimplified and sexist, the orange peel theory isn't inherently dubious or novel. (A related idea, the so-called bird test, is similarly making the rounds on social media.) It just reinforces an age-old notion of relationships that just because you can do something for yourself doesn't mean you should have to.

   • 2023 December 5, “The 'Orange Peel Theory' TikTok Test, Explained”, in HuffPost‎, archived from the original on 2024-02-19:

     Dubbed the "orange peel theory," the idea involves the ability to understand your partner and their feelings; it's based on their tendency to perform simple tasks for you whether asked to do them or not ― like peeling an orange. […] It's important to note that everyone has a different way of showing their appreciation and affection. However, if there is one thing that the orange peel theory has proved, it's that small, consistent acts of kindness certainly help deliver the message that you care about someone.

   • 2024 January 18, Helen Meriel Thomas, “A Therapist Explains the Problem With 'Orange Peel Theory' Boyfriend Tests”, in VICE‎, archived from the original on 2024-02-03:

     The orange peel theory is the latest in a long line of so-called "boyfriend tests" running rampant on social media.